Max6...good news.(also as it has mirror weights at vertex level...if u use skin modifer which I prefer...with biped(easier than bones) ) try this:
1- top menu. "File" ..."Export" ...Choose FILMBOX FBX. ok, now an *.fbx gets created... ok.
2- files...Import...Filmbox FBX... choose the file you exported before...Now you should have a perfect bones and skin file. Instead of a biped an physique file. Physique is supported by Panda. Biped is not. That's why i strongly suggest.
One thing I remembe r well... DO NOT install and FBX version from Kaydara...DON'T do anything. As the one included with max6 (like a native format) is good to go. Is perfect.And others often don't work.
Also, VERY important...please...try to: ensure th emesh is attached to the biped (well, seems you applied th ephysique, so it must be good) ..and even more important...CREATE 2 keyframes at least, an animation.Or it wont work. mark animation to be exported. But previous to all settings in Panda dialog...do create these 2 keyframes... that is, in frame 0, like keyframe all biped bones (you know how to do this, I guess

) , and...well, I like to set autokeyframing on in max, so that all I do in a frame gets saved as keyframe. But if not, just go to frame 30 anyway, and once you have made your pose, do select each joint changed, hit the key shaped icon to keyframe that, and do so with all bones that changed in location or rotation (way easier autokeyframing, huh...

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After doing this (or better, BEFORE doing this) ..please, I know is a long thread... hehe...but please , read the thread in my sig...I suppose you did so already, but is in th etiny bits where very key info is needed to know...
You have Max 6, and FBX I know works perfect with this method. Do so , as a tested with trial, and solved a physique problem with b3d pipeline with other user. But i know this actually works. So it must for you...
If I see again this thread, post your results, and I'll see if there's some thing I can spot...
BTW, Milkshape does not have weights.
(cfx (
www.insanesoftware.de) does but i supose the 15$ is not an issue, but more a decission from you to not buy anymore software..i can understand it very well. ) Anyway, is thousand times harder and less powerful than Max, but what is only 15
IMHO, it'd be a pitty if u don't iron the problems with max, as with Panda I know it works.
A last chance u have...is just use Max bones, but are way harder to learn than cs, and imho not so quick to handle. But can do also.